So my mom’s ex boyfriend has been living in our basement for months now. I believe I mentioned him before but in case I haven’t, he is this kinda super annoying guy who is really taking advantage of my mom and her kindness. They made a deal where he would get a room in our basement and in exchange he would paint a room in our house for each month he is down there. It has been 4 months now and he only just started painting and that was after my mom and him had a little tiff over who would actually pay for the paint. The thing is, their deal was a room for a room but he is using our utilities, on our internet, on MY netflix account and eating our food. My mom will include him for dinner but he comes up in the middle of the night and just eats whatever he wants. He’ll even go grocery shopping with my mom, adding what he likes to the cart and never once offering to pay for anything. He’ll go get himself food sometimes but never think to offer to bring any back for even just my mom. I find this to be incredibly frustrating.
I have also had my own issues with him. Besides the fact that he is quite ignorant and has a very gendered/misogynistic view of the world, he is also a very touchy person. I, on the other hand, am an agoraphobe who does not like being touched. I went two months of him petting me on the back to say good morning until I finally snapped and told him he couldn’t touch me anymore. Then when he told me I could never have a bf if I didn’t like being touched and thought it was funny to continue to poke me, I very nicely told him that since I clearly revoked any consent for him to put hands on me, his continuing to do so was technically assault. That got him to stop but still it is incredibly frustrating for me. Add to that, that as an introvert I sometimes don’t even like being surrounded by my own family and now here is this loud and obnoxious man who is ALWAYS around (because he also has no job)!
Anyways, the reason for today’s rant was spurred by a dirty teamug. Because I drink tea, he has decided he wants to drink tea too. So he is using my teamugs and my kettle and that should be completely fine except for some reason it feels invasive. He isn’t even really drinking tea either. He takes a tetley teabag, puts it in the mug, puts whatever temperature water I boiled the kettle to over the teabag, stirs it and removes the teabag after 1 minute. Then dumps 1/2 a cup of honey or sugar on top. He is so proud and keeps saying “I never drank tea unless I was sick but now because of you I always drink it. I even drink less pop because I am drinking more tea”. He is also a slob who will only use mugs he can put in the dishwasher and never rinses them out. And he like my mugs so he uses them even for coffee. So today when I grabbed one of my teamugs, I dumped the filter in without looking and brewed up this tea. It wasn’t until I took my first sip that I noticed the coffee scum ring on the inside. This got dumped because of it and now I am just a little more irritated than usual with his presence.