So, I’m sipping on this one right now with a splash of Butter Pecan creamer in it. It’s smooth, rich and full bodied with brilliant malt notes and sweet, nuttyness from the creamer but admittedly my mind is basically anywhere BUT on the tea right now…
Wise Steepster folk, I need life advice – if anyone has some to offer.
So, there’s this guy I’m seeing but not seeing. We’re not really officially together; but we have been on a significant amount of dates and that’s 100% the direction things are moving. The point isn’t really the status of our non-relationship, though. The point is that recently, and I mean really recently his apartment complex caught fire. It sounds like the entire building is going to be condemned and the majority of the stuff in the basement is going to be totally lost. While it wasn’t his suite itself that caught fire it was the one RIGHT next to his in that basement area (they share a wall; it was very close) so more likely than not he’s lost absolutely everything except what he was wearing and what he had at his office at work/his mother’s house. Of course they’re not completely sure of that yet; they haven’t been allowed back in the building yet to survey the damage…
Even though we’re not technically in a relationship; he’s kept me in the loop thus far about the whole situation and I was one of the first people he messaged immediately after he found out a few days ago. So, I know based on that he wants me involved to at least a degree…
I want to help; but here’s where I need help – I have NO CLUE what I can do for him in this situation. I can empathize ‘til the cows come home, but bottom line is that my pity it going to do nothing for him. I did buy his a Nordic Mug and a tin of his favourite tea for his mother’s house, where he’s currently staying, because I had to do SOMETHING and I thought a kind gesture like that and a piece of normalcy throughout all of it might be helpful? His parents are setting him up with fresh clothing (because his will likely all be smoke damaged) and his immediate housing needs are taken care of so that’s one less thing I could do for him. I just…
I’m at a loss for words. So any advice would be helpful. I want to do something for him, I just don’t know what would actually be helpful and what goes beyond being reasonable for someone who hasn’t known him for the world’s longest period of time or as well as the majority of people in his life. I’m not family, and I don’t know him like his close circle of friends do…
I’m other, in this situation.
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Hmm. Perhaps a giftcard in a sum you are comfortable with for toiletries or other essentials? ie. things that he might use or miss.
I second the cards but I think your personal moral support will be a goof thing. Sooner or later he will be at a loss as everything sets in. That is where your shoulder will mean a lot.
Hmm. Perhaps a giftcard in a sum you are comfortable with for toiletries or other essentials? ie. things that he might use or miss.
I second the cards but I think your personal moral support will be a goof thing. Sooner or later he will be at a loss as everything sets in. That is where your shoulder will mean a lot.