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Cold Brew Sipdown (267)…sorta since I just put the rest in my swap box

This cold brewed for almost 48 hours because I intended to drink it yesterday but had a shitstorm of a day. Back in December, I left my mom’s house to come stay with my sister due to a lot of drama I am sure I have previously mentioned. My brother arrived a few days later after my mom kicked him out. Since then, my brother has been quite difficult to live with because despite being 30, he hasn’t learned the basic skills of an adult. For instance, he can’t even seem to get his plates from the sink to the dishwasher (In London, I don’t even have a dishwasher so I have to hand wash everything so I feel like this is not asking much of him). Given his age and the fact that he has a full-time job and no debt in addition to the fact that he doesn’t pull his weight around the house, my sister told him a few weeks ago that she thinks it is time he starts looking for a place of his own. She gave him a deadline of August 1 seeing as she is expected to deliver her baby in September and wanted to get things settled and ready in her house (which includes moving me out of the room I am currently sleeping in which is meant to be the nursery to the room my brother was using, which was always meant to be for me). My brother didn’t want to move out though so he was not actively looking and since he refuses to live with a roommate or in a basement apartment but still has a fairly low budget, any decent place that fits his requirements is (and has) gone quickly. Given his laziness and apathy, we have continuously had to push him to search and yesterday my sister lost it on him when she caught him lying about it. His response to this was to decide he’d rather live in his car than with the “abuse” he experienced here. Both my brother-in-law and I tried talking to him but his arrogant attitude led to us yelling at him and he left. Of course the guy who won’t even live in a basement apartment wasn’t actually going to live in his car so he went running back to our Mom’s place.

If that wasn’t bad enough, my mom decided to call my sister and give her shit for telling my brother he had to move out. She first said that we (my sister, brother-in-law and I) were ganging up on my brother and that we were too harsh and he was sensitive. Then when she couldn’t present positive arguments for why my brother should get to stay, she questioned why my sister would let me stay and not him. Then my own mother went on to attack my character to try to show my sister why it was wrong for me to stay and not my brother. Then she told my sister that her and I were the true disappointments because we dismiss people from our lives easily like her, her brother (who once was found standing over my sister in only his underwear while she was sleeping despite her locking the door to the room she was in before she went to sleep…oh and she was a teenager at the time), and now our brother (who chose to leave). So yeah…shitstorm.

Actual tea review starts here

Today is a new day though and as things have calmed in our house, I can get back to the important things…like tea. This tea in particular which I hoped would be better cold brewed but alas it is not. I think it might actually be worse so I am getting much more rooibos than I did in the regular cup. Plus, the coconut is coming off a little more lotion-y than it did in the hot cup and the hibiscus is definitely stronger. Stupid me waiting as long as I did to try this…

Roswell Strange

…Jesus.

Sending so many virtual hugs.

VariaTEA

Thank you. Today is looking up. I got confirmation that I finally will be starting back at work on the 15th and the vibe in the house is much calmer without my brother’s negative energy so all is well.

Kawaii433

So sorry you are going through that, VariaTEA. Big hugs

Nattie

I’m so sorry about your family issues. Sending positive thoughts your way and hope all is well in the house now. <3

Crowkettle

Sending you lots of positive vibes and virtual hugs, VariaTEA. Family matters wear at the heart. I’m glad you received some positive news among all of this. <3

VariaTEA

Thank you everyone. It’s not the first time something like this happened and I’m sure it won’t be the last. Thankfully I’m in a much better situation now that I live with my sister instead of with my mom. My brother was toxic when he lived with us too so at the end of the day him leaving was probably for the best.

ashmanra

I am so sorry you have had to deal with this. Hugs from afar, and prayers for peace.

Fjellrev

Oh no, VariaTEA, I wish things would improve for you. Fingers crossed that they will.

Martin Bednář

As well hugs from me. Okay, in real life it will be probably just listening and giving some useless advice. But, I wish you that it will be solved soon and I hope he will change his mind and he will understand it.

I am thinking about moving out for few last years too. My mother is getting more and more toxic, we argue more and more.

VariaTEA

Thanks everyone.

After not speaking to my mom since this happened, she messaged me out of nowhere today to tell me I was dead to her. I kindly responded “I’m done. Please do not contact me again.” and blocked her on Facebook and on my phone.

tea-sipper

Yeah, some mothers are extra fun. Sorry VariaTEA.

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Roswell Strange

…Jesus.

Sending so many virtual hugs.

VariaTEA

Thank you. Today is looking up. I got confirmation that I finally will be starting back at work on the 15th and the vibe in the house is much calmer without my brother’s negative energy so all is well.

Kawaii433

So sorry you are going through that, VariaTEA. Big hugs

Nattie

I’m so sorry about your family issues. Sending positive thoughts your way and hope all is well in the house now. <3

Crowkettle

Sending you lots of positive vibes and virtual hugs, VariaTEA. Family matters wear at the heart. I’m glad you received some positive news among all of this. <3

VariaTEA

Thank you everyone. It’s not the first time something like this happened and I’m sure it won’t be the last. Thankfully I’m in a much better situation now that I live with my sister instead of with my mom. My brother was toxic when he lived with us too so at the end of the day him leaving was probably for the best.

ashmanra

I am so sorry you have had to deal with this. Hugs from afar, and prayers for peace.

Fjellrev

Oh no, VariaTEA, I wish things would improve for you. Fingers crossed that they will.

Martin Bednář

As well hugs from me. Okay, in real life it will be probably just listening and giving some useless advice. But, I wish you that it will be solved soon and I hope he will change his mind and he will understand it.

I am thinking about moving out for few last years too. My mother is getting more and more toxic, we argue more and more.

VariaTEA

Thanks everyone.

After not speaking to my mom since this happened, she messaged me out of nowhere today to tell me I was dead to her. I kindly responded “I’m done. Please do not contact me again.” and blocked her on Facebook and on my phone.

tea-sipper

Yeah, some mothers are extra fun. Sorry VariaTEA.

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My cupboard has grown exponentially since joining this site and I have a lot to share. Feel free to snoop through my cupboard and message me if anything interests you – I am always happy to swap!

For me, flavored teas are definitely my sweet spot. I will most often reach for black teas and rooibos or honeybush blends but I do keep some flavored whites and greens around for when the mood strikes. I have a few herbals/tisanes but most of the time I find myself disappointed by them as they often smell deliciously sweet and then end up tasting tart/sour. I have a little bit of an aversion to pu’erh and oolong teas. I am also wary of florals, earl greys, and chai teas. I do not like overpowering citrus flavors nor do I usually like hibiscus, licorice or chamomile. I love dessert teas – caramel, vanilla, toffee, cookie, cream, and other sweet flavors make me smile. Fruits like strawberry, peach, mango, and pineapples will often catch my attention as well.

I have also realized that although I really enjoy adding frothed milk to some of my teas, if I do not like the tea with zero additives (just in plain water without milk or sugar), I probably won’t drink it. The one exception is flavored matchas which I will happily drink in cold milk if I do not like it mixed with hot water. My theory is if the tea can’t stand on its own then it is not for me and I will more than likely try to swap it out for something else.

Tea Ratings Guide (as of December 10, 2017)
90-100 Teas I NEED on hand at all times
80-89 Teas I want to keep around for a cup every now and then
70-79 Teas I am glad I have around and can experiment with but probably don’t need more than what’s in my cupboard
60-69 Teas I would not turn down a cup of from a friend but that would probably be enough
50-59 Teas I can see why someone would enjoy but are not for me
Under 50 Teas I really did not like and most likely got dumped

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